Sex, Rhianna and Redbook

While Rhiann's new song, S&M, is far from a family sing along, it is terribly profound; ironically indicating just how empty this girl (as well as our culture) really is.  If Rhianna is telling the truth, then she is one who feels good being good at being bad (how's that for an expression!), and who likes to experience affliction while having sex.  At the end of her "afflicting" experiences, however, instead of being fulfilled, she is left "wanting more."

I do want to make myself clear.  I am not saying that just because a person is left "wanting more" after having sexual intercourse, that they are out of line.  I think it is perfectly normal for a person to want more sex after having sex.  Nor am I advocating a limited scope of sexual positions and/or practices that a couple may choose from in order to be ethically "in line."

This brings me to my next point.

If it is sexual positions and practices that we are wanting, we are surely not lacking in that department either.  I am personally amazed by the ability of magazines like Redbook and Cosmopolitan to come up with "new" ways to make our sex lives better.  Heck, why do we even need to talk to our spouse when all we have to do is read "75 moves your lover wishes you knew" or "2,756 ways to make him/her scream" or "543,789.333333 positions to make him/her come back for more." Give me a break.

My point is simple.  If we need that many moves, positions, songs, "afflictions" or whatever to be sexually satisfied, then we are one desperate people.  Sex is not God.  It will not ultimately fulfill.  Sex is merely a shadow of the excitement and satisfaction that we have in Jesus Christ our Lord.  Yes, sex is meant to direct our eyes Godward - it is designed to bring Him glory.

But if we refuse to repent of this idolatry, we will continue distorting this God-glorifying and God-honoring practice.  If we fail to direct people toward Christ, we will be enslaved by the tyrannous lie that sex is ultimately fulfilling - leaving singles, as well as those who are in some way sexually disabled, in utter despair.  In other words, even if you cannot have sex, God's grace is sufficient for you.  Instead of distorting sex, embrace Christ.

So, save yourself the money it would cost to buy that Redbook issue or Rhianna's latest hit, and take your spouse out to coffee.  And instead of listening to some "expert", try asking your spouse what sexually satisfies them.  How's that for a novel idea?

As our culture continues to distort sex, it is our duty to proclaim the glorious nature of sex within the Christ-centered marital context.  Rhianna has no idea, nor does Redbook even come close to describing the pleasure of real sex, between a husband and wife, who are continually communicating their desires, and who are glorifying the Christ who bought them.